Experiencing New Love, Orgasm and Deep Throat in the Span of an Hour!...

Once every six months, (summer and fall) my friend Sarah and I venture to Barney’s in Beverly Hills to work with the top New York runway makeup artists from Nars Cosmetics. Dalbert, the sweet counter manager in Barney’s calls us and sets it up. It’s always the debut of their Fall or Spring line, and they go all out to promote it. When we walk out of Barney’s we usually have a huge bag of what we bought and almost the same amount of promotional items. Dalbert always takes care of us. We start off in the morning with breakfast or brunch at Barney’s Greengrass, with Sarah having a split of Chandon and me, a Grey Goose Citron Martini – up, very chilled with two olives and a twist of lemon. Last time we were there, it was celebrity heaven (or hell, depending upon how you see it). Joan and Melissa Rivers and her baby;  Raquel Welch,  still looking amazing (I wonder who helps her maintain her youthful beauty?) and other vaguely familiar Hollywood types. I once ran into Billy Crystal and thought I went to high school with him, so I asked him. A little embarrassing, but still pretty fun. Once satiated, we head on down to the first floor and land at the Nars counter, where Dalbert gives us a great big hug and introduced us to his make-up artist associates. We dig in, first starting with a cleanser, followed by a toner, followed by a brightener, followed by a light moisturizer, followed by eye cream, followed by a tinted moisturizer, followed by a Foundation, followed by blush, followed by powder. Whew!  With all that stuff on my face, I started to get a hot flash. But I looked good!  I was...

Detour to Italy

Last night, on the way home from work, I decided to take a detour from my usual dinner pick up spot (think crazy charbroiled chicken) and head over to Bay Cities Italian Bakery and Deli. I have lived in Los Angeles for over 20 years, and had never been there! Do you know why? Because it is always so crowded I could never get a parking space! I zoomed down Lincoln Blvd., prayed to the parking gods, and voila – someone was just pulling out of a great space in the lot! The minute I walked in, I now knew why I never got a parking spot without the help of the gods. The quaint gourmet grocery store, established in 1925, was packed with amazing, one of a kind food items in its well stocked narrow isles. To my right was a deli counter, taking up the whole wall, from front to back. The front part served hot homemade Italian dishes for takeout, like lasagna, chicken Parmesan, eggplant Parmesan, spaghetti with sausage or meatballs, and other Mediterranean dishes. In the middle of the counter was a deli, serving a plethora of pasta and cold salads, such as antipasto, caprese, fusilli/pesto, seafood and many others. At the end of the counter there was a meat market, serving freshly sliced meats and sandwiches. Momma Ma! What a selection of italian meats – Breasola, Capi Cola, Copa Seca, Serrano ham, Mortadella, Pancetta, Prociutto, Salami, Sopressa, and many others. The sandwiches looked amazing as well. There was one called the Godmother, with Genoa salami, mortadella coppacola, ham, prosciutto and provolone all wrapped in a freshly baked Italian roll. I chose a dry salami to go with a cheese I would choose later. This whole area was packed, three-deep...

Face Off!

I’ve discovered it’s more than a hockey term. It’s what I experienced at my last facial, and I lived to tell the tale. I have been getting monthly facials for more than 35 years. The ritual started when I had teenage acne problems. Long after the acne disappeared, the facials continued. One piece of personally proven advice I can give to you (men and women) is to take good care of your skin. I consider my best asset to be my face. People tell me I look closer to 40 than over 50. When I was younger, like 22, I was constantly getting asked for my ID when I went bar-hopping with my friends. I hated it then. Love it now! I am deeply grateful for my teenage acne – it started me on a lifelong path of keeping my skin healthy. Back to my most recent facial. I have been going to my technician, Cathy for more than 10 years. She works magic. And she’s quite inexpensive for the extensive ritual she puts me through. First, she shapes my eyebrows. This time, she had to dye them because she found some WHITE eyebrow hairs. If that wasn’t enough of a sign of getting older, she started plucking away at my chin – I had a long hair (well, long for a chin-hair) growing out of it! “Holy Sht! I am old!” I yelled, in the quiet meditative space. But Cathy smiled and remained calm. I simmered down after she had me do some deep breathing exercises to relieve the angst. She’s so Zen, that Cathy! She then began my facial with a soothing cleansing of my skin. Then she used a steam-machine to open my pores to make the extraction process easier. Easier...

Real Estate You Can Eat...

For years, I have been driving down Broadway past this hippie-looking store called Co-Opportunity and always wondered what it was like. I decided that today was the day I would go in and find out more about it. The first thing I noticed was the impressive amount of bicycle racks installed on the outside walls of the store – cool! I’ll ride my bike down here next time. I enter the store and quickly learn that Co-Opportunity has been providing natural, organic and local foods to the Santa Monica area for more than 35 years, long before those other “yuppie” natural food stores opened in Santa Monica. This is the real deal! I’m instantly hooked. They have one of the largest selections of certified organic produce, including bulk produce, such as lettuce mix, green beans and carrots, a large variety of healthy hot and cold to go items, such as tamales, sandwiches, wraps, and freshly made pizza. There is also a large selection of gluten free products that thoroughly pleased my shopping companion. In addition to a wide variety of natural foods and groceries, they have of the largest selections of organic health and body care products I have ever seen. I make my way to these aisles. There’s a medicine for every ailment, including one for stress (check), one for varicose veins (check), another for back aches (check), and another for PMS (check!) Overwhelmed, I told the extremely knowledgeable manager of this department I would have to come back for a personal consultation – soon. After choosing a tea for energy and balance(I’ll start slowly), I moved on to the other store aisles.  It was lunch time, so I went on the hunt for some healthy items. I came across a coconut oil...

Bush-Whacked, The Good, The Bad and The Ugly!...

Welcome to our world! Hot Flash Universe is the go-to source for women over 40 looking for insight into the hottest, most current trends, products and issues. Topics are approached with candor, intellect and a healthy dose of humor. We search for the best Los Angeles has to offer for women of any age to be sexy, smart and savvy. Check out this week’s Hot Flash! THE GOOD It’s summertime, and with the warm sun comes sexier clothes.  One BIG mistake you can make is not shaving your legs, armpits or waxing your bikini line -a  total turn-off for men and women.  It might be OK to let it go in the winter, but absolutely not in the summer! My “go to” gay stylist/friend Colin says, “Women and men should be waxed all year ’round.  It’s very fashionable to be well-groomed.”   And, I personally think it makes you feel sexier and younger! THE BAD But buyer beware.  I have a friend that told me that within 24 hours of getting a bikini wax at a reputable salon, an infection crept in.  Eww! Not sexy. Her doctor diagnosed her with cellulitis, a potentially life-threatening bacterial infection of the skin and the underlying tissue. It took her months to recover physically from the infection, a big price to pay for a supposedly harmless procedure. Scary! THE UGLY Waxing can also pull off tiny pieces of the skin’s outermost layer, creating a portal through which bacteria can enter the body. What’s more, the process creates inflammation, which can trap bacteria beneath the skin. All of this make that area primed for skin infections and ingrown hairs.  Yuk. For those who are willing to take the risk, here’s what you need to look for: Choose a Facility Carefully...